I have read the multitude of posts out there warning people of what not to say to pregnant women. They warn against questions and statements such as "are you sure you aren't having twins", "wow your baby is going to be huge", "Are you sure you are only half way done", and they tell you to never touch a pregnant woman's stomach without asking.
I will be honest though, no of those things really bother me. If I look like I'm having twins or my baby belly looks bigger than others, it just tells me that Oliver is growing and healthy. If people want to touch my belly let them... I always use to want to touch pregnant women's bellies!
However, there are two thing that I keep hearing that are starting to irk me.
This first one is not only rude but highly perpetuated by multiple forms of social media. It has to do with the issue of pregnancy hormones. Memes like the ones below make people think that every time a pregnant woman scolds you or is angry it is "just those pregnancy hormones". Has anyone stopped to think that maybe she isn't hormonal but her anger is justified?!
Maybe my rant will make more sense in the context in which I experience it... Teaching. One example in which I have seen this is with a rather rambunctious group of middle schoolers. Countless times I have had to raise my voice and inform them that they are not behaving the way I expect them to be. Granted that may sound like "If I wanted to teach student with the maturity level of a 4th grader, I would have taught 4th grade", but my words are 100% justified. Every time that I scold them, someone either outright or covert says something along the lines of "well she is hormonal today" or "my mom got mad about stupid stuff when she was pregnant too".
I am not being hormonal!! I am legitimately angry for justified reasons. I would be just as angry and would give just as many lunch detentions if I wasn't pregnant! Does no one remember the lunch detentions and write ups they received BEFORE I was pregnant!!
I have also had students walk in and say "Mrs. Simone (lets me honest they all still call me Mrs. Martin), you look happy today. You must not have any raging hormones today". No darling, I am just in a good mood and you haven't acted foolish yet. Non pregnant people are aloud to be happy without it being hormonally related.
The second thing that bothers me is when people scold me for doing simple tasks because "you are pregnant". I am fully capable of walking the 0.10 miles from my classroom to the office despite being pregnant. I am also capable of carrying a 1 lb. textbook while walking. If I can't carry a book how do I expect myself to carry a child! Yes, I can bend over to plug in my computer and move from a sitting to a standing position effectively. I understand that people are just trying to help. If they ask to help, I have no problem letting them know when I do or do not need their offer. It is when people tell me "Mrs. Simone I don't ever want to see you walking around carrying that book again... you are pregnant", that it bothers me. I don't want to be babied or coddled at my job. Mothers all over the world walk miles for water, carry crops on their head as they harvest, take care of farms, and clean homes while much more pregnant that I am. God made our bodies with the ability to handle more than we give ourselves credit for.
Please be careful about accusing a woman of being hormonal or giving help before asking if it is needed. It is bothersome enough dealing with pregnancy symptoms that are not work related!
Have any of these things ever happened to you?
What have people said to you during pregnancy that really gets under your skin?
* This meme has nothing to do with this post... I just thought it was funny!
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