Parenting plans are like birth plans. You can meticulously write them out with every detail ironed out, but when you are screaming your head off and there are bodily fluids involved, the plan flies out the window! I am going to be open and honest today about some of the things that I haven't followed thru on as a parent. No parent is perfect, and I don't want to pretend that I am.
I will never use the cry it out method
I wrote a post recently about how we sleep-train without the cry it out method (CIO). However, in all honesty, since writing that, I have resorted to CIO a few times! I was SO against it at first and swore I would never use it, but one day I reached a limit and gave it a try. It wasn't fun for anyone involved, but it solved some of the few problems that we were still having. My husband still hates it and wants to pull him out every time we have to do it, but I've definitely changed my tune there. With every child we have I will try to do as little CIO as possible, but it is one of the parenting guns that I haven't stuck to.
We will read before bed every night
I started out really good on my goal to read to Oliver every night. Shoot, when he couldn't move I would read to the kid for an hour a day and sometimes more. But now that he is so wiggly and on the go, I have been really bad about reading. I would say I get in a book once a week! I feel so bad even writing that. I have finally come to terms with the fact that even if he won't sit still and listen to the whole book, me reading while he plays is a good alternative. At least he is still hearing the words and stories. But, this is one that I really want to work on.
Any advice to get them to sit still and not try eating the book?!
No playing with the remotes
Another fail. We decided before Oliver was born that he wouldn't be allowed to play with the remotes. That hasn't happened. There are so many things that I have to say no to all day that on this one I just had to pick my battles and let go. In fact, while trying to get him dressed today I gave him the remote to entertain himself! I know that if my dad reads this he would say "You have to discipline them and not give in", but I admit failure here. I discipline on a lot of stuff, but mama needs a break and he won this battle.
No playing with the phones
I never let Oliver play with my phone... unless: I want 5 more minutes of sleep, I am trying to get dressed, he won't stop pulling the clothes out of the laundry hamper, he is trying to flip while I'm changing his diaper, he is getting distract while facetiming grandparents, or I want to pee without a kid on my lap. The rest of the day it is off limits-ish :)
He will eat all meals in the high chair
I started out admit that he would only eat in the high chair. I didn't want food on the couch or him eating off our plates. Yeah, not gonna lie, he eats standing at the couch off my plate for 90% of dinners and every morning for breakfast. I still do lunch in the high chair and snacks, but he eats so much more if he can play and then craw over for a bite, so I caved.
No more breastfeeding for comfort
At 10 months, we are trying to slowly start weening away from breastfeeding and supplement with pumped milk. Due to some family events this summer, I would like to be weened and only giving pumped milk around his first birthday. I am trying to only breastfeed 4 times a day: morning, before each nap, and before bed. I use to whip it out every time he cried to calm him down, but I am trying to stop... slightly unsuccessfully. There is something about knowing I can comfort him that makes it so hard to withhold. I don't know how I am every going to stick with my plan on this one and successfully ween him!
CUTE CLOTHES ALWAYS
Yeah. Right. That plan failed. He left the house the other day in his pajamas shirt, non matching sweat pants and two different socks.
There you have it folks. I don't have it all together and all figured out. Parenting is messy and we are all just figuring it out along the way. Don't feel guilty if your plan continues to change.
In what areas of parenting have you gone back on your plan?
Do you let your little ones play with things that you originally said were off limits?
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